Posts Tagged: hope

Never Lose Hope

May 3rd, 2012
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I am always searching for ways to simplify my life and focusing my outlook on the positive.

When I read this quote from Pulitzer Prize winner Tomas Transtromer, the beauty of his message struck me immediately and brought to mind the flittering and lightness of butterflies.
As we read Transtromer’s quote, may we think of ourselves today as butterflies, circling through the air with our friends and family, full of the knowledge that in time we can create a new future and develop new meaning from a personal loss.
“The caterpillar feet were gone, the wings unfolded.
 

One should never … Read More

The Slip Slide of Time

April 19th, 2012
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Time just seems to slip slide away when you find yourself navigating a loss. I’m not talking about how quickly time can seem to go while living our lives.  I’m talking about the strange sensation that where time seem to go back and forth between the past and present while trying to recover from a loss or a trauma.  It seems to slip slide all over the place.  When I feel this happening to me, I take it as a sign that my life needs to slow down a bit and be experienced in smaller increments.  Thinking about the future… Read More

Paying Respects @WTC

March 14th, 2012
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On a bright and beautiful Sunday morning this past weekend in New York City, I finally had an opportunity to visit the memorial site for the World Trade Center. With my brother, sister-in-law and their 12-year-old daughter, we took a taxi to the 8-acre site in lower Manhattan where the infamous Twin Towers once stood.  The site is deceiving because construction fences surround the area and you can’t see the two black stone squares containing the waterfalls or even hear the waterfalls from the road.  It just looks like a regular construction site. Getting to the memorial site is a… Read More

Saying ‘I Love You’

February 23rd, 2012
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There is a lot of talk about living in the moment.  Staying in the moment.  Seizing the moment.  I constantly remind myself to practice these ideals.  Sometimes I achieve it and other times I don’t.  But author Jeffrey Zaslow got the concept and seemed to truly live it.  What an interesting and inspiring man!  Please read this beautiful story about Jeffrey Zaslow that recently ran in the New York Times.  Reporter Tara Parker-Poe says it so much better than I ever could: February 13, 2012, 5:37 pm Life’s Frailty, and the Gestures That Go a Long Way By TARA PARKER-POPE    … Read More

A Resilient Giants Victory

February 6th, 2012
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Ron Antonelli/New York Daily News Part of healing and jumping back into the regular routine of life is finding something to care about.  It can be anything in the whole universe and you can change it anytime you want. Yesterday, for me, it was the New York Giants and their 21-17 victory over the New England Patriots. The Super Bowl party I attended was loose and friendly in the beginning of the game but it became a little more tense in the fourth quarter as the clock ticked away and the game looked like it would be decided by one… Read More

Jamie Lee Curtis

November 22nd, 2011
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Hello faithful readers!  Remember in 2002 when Jaime Lee Curtis revealed in a national magazine what she really looked like without help from make-up and hair assistants and more importantly, air brushing?  Maybe you don’t, but I do and I thought it was one huge courageous move for women everywhere.  Besides her acting and writing talents, I applaud Jaime Lee Curtis for her honesty and independence. Jaime Lee Curtis’ other bold move:  quitting alcohol and pain pills in 1999.  Since we’re all in this together, one person’s experience may help inspire another person who is trying to find a way… Read More

Step By Baby Step

November 7th, 2011
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When life deals you a blow, your first reaction is to withdraw and protect yourself.  You want to crawl under the covers, lock the doors and wait for the bad stuff to go away. But guess what?  In the long run, that doesn’t work.  Denial usually makes a situation a whole helluva lot worse. There are lots of theories about why things get worse when they are ignored, but I think it happens because when you don’t pay attention to your thoughts and feelings they build up like a pressure cooker and at some point, that ole pot is going… Read More

Light A Candle

October 4th, 2011
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Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle,  and the life of the candle will not be shortened.   Happiness never decreases by being shared. — Buddha… Read More

Connecting The Grief Dots

May 7th, 2011
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Grief is a lot of work.  I know that sounds ridiculous but it’s true. And some days I just don’t want to deal with it.  Or be reminded of it. Those days would especially include when I have to fill out a government or school form for my son or myself and instead of writing his father’s name, I have to write in “deceased.”  That hurts. Or I get to pick from the selections of my status: single, married, divorced or widowed.  After eight years, you would think I would be used to answering these questions but it still pulls… Read More