When I am feeling vulnerable from making a mistake or stressed out from a work project or just plain personally overloaded by my life, I try to find something that will feed my inner resources. Something that will feed my soul.
If something goes wrong or becomes overwhelming or things in general don’t feel as though they are in sync in a good way, then I know I need to find a sweet spot where I can take a break and treat myself to something positive. Not anything big or expensive. Just something that makes the clouds break and brings a smile.
It could be a walk in the park near my office or a telephone call to my son. It could be a fresh, healthy meal where I splurge a little or perhaps a telephone call to one of my sisters. It could be listening to a favorite song and playing it over and over as many times as I like or a telephone call to a great friend.
Are you noticing a trend?
Yup. Here it is: force yourself to call someone when things don’t feel right.
Talking face to face is always the best but when that can’t happen call someone you trust; someone you know who cares about you. You need to hear another human voice. Reading a text is okay but it’s not the same kind of connection.
One of the biggest mistakes we make when we are feeling down is to isolate ourselves, which can sometimes backfire and put us in an even worse mood. Setbacks and letdowns become magnified when you are in a bad mood and the positive things in your life could be right in front of you but you might not see them at all.
Don’t give up on yourself and your precious future. There is no right or wrong way to rebuilding your life after a loss. There is only your way. And finding your way takes time. These are suggestions that work for me and perhaps they will work for you too.
Hang in there!!