Even Margaret Thatcher, the former Prime Minister of England and subject of the Oscar-nominated film, “The Iron Lady,” searches for meaning in the midst of her grief.
Surprisingly, “The Iron Lady,” shows us an elderly Margaret Thatcher preparing to eat breakfast with her husband, Denis. She is talking to him about the usual things husbands and wives talk about in the morning. The camera shows Margaret Thatcher talking about the price of milk as she starts to eat her soft boiled egg and then the camera shows Denis on the other side of the table folding his newspaper, conversing with his wife. We think it’s a routine scene about a husband and wife having breakfast but then Thatcher’s assistant enters the kitchen and we see that Margaret Thatcher is sitting at the table alone and she has been talking out loud to herself.
There is a place set on the other side of the table where Denis would be sitting were he alive. But for Margaret, Denis is still very much alive in her imagination and she “sees” him as she has every day of her married life. That is when we bond with her as a human being, when the person of Margaret Thatcher is revealed.
We feel the same jumble of emotions that anyone would feel were we in her position of adjusting to life without her loved one. Her husband may be gone but she still talks to him because she feels his presence and it doesn’t seem strange to her to talk to him even though he is no longer physically present. Lots of people do this and it’s perfectly normal.
Then there is that moment in the movie when Margaret is being urged by others to get rid of Denis’ clothes and his other belongings. We expect that Margaret Thatcher, who appears to be ice cold and steely strong in her public life, will also handle the death of her beloved husband in the same stoic manner. But we would be so wrong.
Denis’s clothes are hanging in the closet, his pillow is right next to hers and his golf clubs are leaning against the bedroom wall as though he just came through the door and placed them there. As Margaret goes through Denis’ things, she relives the memories of the highs and lows of their life together.”The decision to let go of your husband’s things after he’s gone is a very hard thing,” said Meryl Streep in an interview with the Daily Mail. “These decisions you make in your personal life are as profound as any decision about the Falklands. Everything counts. In a big ambitious life, everything counts.”