One of the presents that my insightful son gave me for Mother’s Day is a book about blogging.
From the very first post I wrote, he has always been my biggest supporter. I love it!
He is always asking me what I am going to write about and I run ideas by him to get a younger point of view and I also ask him for permission to write about him or something he said or did. Some writers would disagree with requesting permission from him but I feel it is the polite thing to do and asking also prevents angry or hurt feelings.
At 22 years old, my son has very good instincts about life plus he visits completely different websites than I do. He is happy to give me a heads up about an idea that he thinks might translate into a timely post and I am glad he does. He has given me some great ideas! And so has my son’s book!
One of the first exercises the book suggests is to make sure that you know who you are as a blogger. Are you a baker? A decorator? An athlete? I am a little bit of all of those things but that’s not why I chose to start writing my blog.
I started Cry, Laugh, Heal in December 2010 because my husband died in 2003 and I was raising our son by myself and working a full-time job. I had spent two years attending a support group for widowed persons and then decided that I wanted to contribute to the online conversation about grief.
In the beginning, I only wrote once a week and I only wrote about grief. As I started to work my way through some major grief feelings, I began to see that I was doing more than surviving and getting through a day. I was slowly but surely, with the help of others, rebuilding my life. It’s not the life that I thought I would be leading, but it’s a life I feel good about and a lot of it has to do with blogging.
I am still working a full-time job but I always find time to write. I too am still working through my grief and just like you I need support. In every post, I try to be as honest and as straightforward as I can be. It is important to me to call things what they are, for that is when you truly start to untangle a feeling, a problem or a situation. I love the comments that readers leave and I look forward to all the different kinds of feedback that blogging makes possible. So to answer the question of the exercise in my son’s book asking “Who are you as a blogger?” I am a widow, a mother, a former journalist and a dancer. I love life and I try to do something every day that scares me, that challenges me and that I am passionate about. I try to stay authentic about what grief is and how I deal with it; how sometimes it just pounds you down.
But you can’t give in to the pain for there is so much in life to discover anew and it’s usually on the other side of the pain.
Thank you so much awesome readers for visiting my blog, Cry, Laugh, Heal.I’m not sure where life is taking me but let’s travel together.