Working Through Grief

A Widow’s New Chapter

September 26th, 2012
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Dating — whether single, widowed or divorced — is a definite roll of the dice.  But if you hit and find your match, it’s a gambler’s dream come true!
That is why I think the author of the following story was brave to write about getting back into the high-stakes mating game and answering the questions we would want to ask her if we knew her.  She is honest and direct in the telling of her story and that’s why you want to keep reading.
The questions posed here by the author are the ones that people … Read More

First Down in the Grief Zone

September 23rd, 2012
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Washington Redskins I recently called a woman I know whose husband died a number of months ago.  It hasn’t quite been one year yet and I wanted to check in with her and see how she was doing. She said Sundays were particularly hard especially when the weather is classically crisp and autumnal.  Her husband was a huge sports fan and the television would be on all day.  Pre-game shows, the games, switching between the games during commercials and post-game shows.  It was all about football. Depending on who was playing, her husband would yell and scream good things and… Read More

Not On A Pedestal

September 17th, 2012
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I wrote a post in June about my “paper chase” through boxes of memos, computer printouts, handwritten notes and personal writings that belonged to my husband who died eight years ago.  I know.  I know.  Eight years and there are still lots of boxes sitting around waiting for my attention!  So this past weekend, I took a deep breath, decided to dig in and found the time to go through another box. You can choose to go through all of a loved one’s papers yourself or you can do what a friend of mind did when his wife died: he… Read More

Remembering Sept. 11th

September 11th, 2012
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One of the reflecting pools at the World Trade Center memorial site in New York City Eleven years ago today, on the crisp and clear autumn morning of September 11, 2001 in New York City and Washington, DC, people went about the business of getting ready to lead their lives. In both cities, people were unaware of the destruction ahead.  People said good-bye to their loved ones and left for work.  They started another day in the one place where they wanted to do their jobs and raise their families. But it was not to be.  Almost 3,000 people died… Read More

Zen Me

August 28th, 2012
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  Zen Garden Number One “I wait for time to heal the pain and  raise me to my feet once again — so that I can start a new path, my own path, the one that will make me whole again.”                                                       ~ Jack Canfield, Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul II Zen Garden Number Two… Read More

Nature Girl In Search Of Healing

August 27th, 2012
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Courtesy of The Magic Onions I love this picture! Serene and peaceful, can’t you feel the healing power of the flowers?  The first time I saw it, I mentally slipped into the photograph and felt the aura of  its calming vibe.  I could practically smell the beautiful flowers in the shape of a majestic sun surrounding the Nature Girl. Ommmmmmmm.  The healing is starting and it can happen for all of us but we need to be patient.  Healing takes time.  The most important thing about restoring your mental and emotional health after the loss of a loved one is… Read More

On Your Own Time

August 20th, 2012
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Slowly but surely, I have found that the passage of time does help you gain inner strength and perspective as you try to adjust to an altered life after the loss of a loved one.  Your emotions are not as a raw as they were in the beginning of the grieving process and eventually you start to feel that you have more control over the sadness and confusion concerning your loss. It just doesn’t happen as fast as everyone else wants it to happen. Unfortunately, our go-go society is not very tolerant of understanding how much time it really and… Read More

A Special Picture

August 17th, 2012
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Snoopy at typewriter sharing his memories A very good friend recently came over to my house to drop off some things.  It was a Saturday and she was out running errands and my house was on her route.  We both were trying to get things done so it was your usual routine drop off and chat for a few minutes to check in and see what’s going on with each other. Hi. How are you? Great.  What’s going on? Not much.  So and so called me.  Listen to this… She has been in my house tons of times and everything… Read More

The Stepping Stones

July 27th, 2012
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I like the hopeful tone of this short story a lot and I hope you do too. It captures what life is about and I really believe that step by step, little by little, we can help each other through the ups and downs of life. Then you can turn around and help another person: The Stepping Stones By Barbara Williams Come, take my hand.  The road is long.  And we must travel by stepping stones.  No, you’re not alone: I’ll go with you.  I know the road well, I”ve been there. Don’t fear the darkness, I’ll be with you. … Read More