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I found that the first step towards healing from the loss of a loved one is to allow yourself to feel your feelings. You may want to ignore the feelings because they are so painful but trust me, if you are patient with yourself, you can work through or process the waves of emotions coming at you.
Someone you cared about A LOT, someone you loved A LOT is no longer with you physically or emotionally. It takes a long time to really deal with the shock of your loss but eventually time will help you get control of your emotions and give you the courage to continue to move forward with your life.
It has been almost nine years since my husband died and I still have setbacks. Sometimes I will read something that reminds me of him or I see something that reminds me of him or of our life together.I try to talk about it or I try to embrace the memory. Ignoring or denying what has happened only makes it makes it more painful and more overwhelming.
Grief is a process and in expressing your grief you are allowing yourself to heal and to be hopeful. It’s not that you will never be happy again. It’s more that your life has changed and you won’t be exactly the person that you were before your loved one died. You must rebuild and find a way to move forward. We each have different resources but here are some suggestions to help in your healing:
— spend time in nature
— listen to music
— find a quiet place, breathe deeply and relax
— reach out to a friend
— join a group such as a church group or a community group
— strengthen a family tie
— or lie in the grass, feel the warmth of the sun and smell the flowers!