Good Morning Fantastic Readers!This past weekend was interesting and productive and I hope yours was too! The weekends just fly by wayyyyy too quickly don’t they?
Part of my weekend was spent visiting a family member. In the course of my visit, I could tell we were going to fall into our usual conversational trap of going over the same ground that we have covered many times before. You know what I mean, right? The person brings up a certain subject and you know what they’re going to say and you try to change their mind or at least get your point across to them.It’s pretty similar to a tire that is stuck in the mud and just spins round and round. I didn’t plan on it, but over the weekend I decided to try a different way of talking to this person because we weren’t getting anywhere with the old way.
I know this person has been under a lot of stress and is feeling confused. I felt like the best thing to do was to sit and listen and focus on what was being said without any reaction from me. I decided to take myself out of the conversational equation because my point of view didn’t really serve any purpose.Instead, I wanted to try and create a healing zone; a place of safety where this person’s thoughts and feelings could be shared without the possibility of an argument.
It wasn’t a particularly honest conversation but it did allow this person to talk about their feelings and I think that was a healthy and healing thing.
For me, healing is finding a new place to live.
Not a physical place such as a new house or an apartment but a new place to mentally live.Healing is finding the place within myself where I try to find quiet and sometimes vulnerability. A place where I level with myself and tell myself that I can do better. To be honest with myself and stop making excuses about my reactions to things that annoy or frustrate me. I can control the volume of my voice and I can control the words that come out of my mouth when I’m talking to someone.
Healing is saying to myself that it’s time to change. When I find that my usual way of doing something or my usual reaction to something isn’t working then it’s time to go somewhere new and find a better way to act.
New ways of talking about our emotions can sometimes be scary, but new can also be refreshing because you don’t have to lug your old emotional baggage with you; you can lock it up and leave it behind.
I’d love to know how you deal with breaking old habits and how you discover news ways of communicating. Let me know if you have some tips that can break the behavioral logjam and let the conversations flow towards a healing place.
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