|Tom Hanks and Ross Malinger|
Rita Wilson starts to repeat dialogue from “An Affair To Remember” and sets up the scenes with Deborah Kerr (is it pronounced “Kerr” or Carr? I never can remember…”) and Cary Grant. Then she starts to cry as she remembers the ending of the movie and the men are just staring at her like she’s crazy. (“Is she always like this?”) Then the characters played by Tom Hanks and Victor Garber start comparing “An Affair to Remember” to “The Dirty Dozen,” a man’s man movie about World War II. Hanks and Garber begin imitating Wilson and then start crying about scenes involving guns and bombs and Trini Lopez. It’s all very funny!!!!
The reason my memory was jogged about “Sleepless In Seattle” had to do with a tweet I read last week from Grief Speaks. Grief Speaks tweets about loss and also is a website (www.griefspeaks.com) giving support to children, teens and adults who are coping with grief due to all different type of loss.
The tweet reminded me of something some of us are all too familiar with; the poignant side of “Sleepless in Seattle” when Tom Hanks finds himself in the throes of trying to figure out how to put one foot in front of the other and go on as a newly widowed man and also as a single parent.
The following dialogue from a very different scene in “Sleeepless in Seattle” is right on the money because it addresses in a candid way why it’s so hard to let go, to say good-bye, and move forward with your life without that beloved one:
“Doctor Marcia Fieldstone: People who truly loved once are far more likely to love again. Sam, do you think there’s someone out there you could love as much as your wife?
Sam Baldwin: Well, Dr. Marcia Fieldstone, that’s hard to imagine.
Doctor Marcia Fieldstone: What are you going to do?
Sam Baldwin: Well, I’m gonna get out of bed every morning… breathe in and out all day long. Then, after a while I won’t have to remind myself to get out of bed every morning and breathe in and out… and, then after a while, I won’t have to think about how I had it great and perfect for a while.
Doctor Marcia Fieldstone: Tell me what was so special about your wife?