Posts Tagged: bereavement

Riding The Rollercoaster

September 5th, 2012
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Dear Readers:

Just as you may find yourself on an emotional roller coaster, so do I.

I have days, just as you do, when things don’t go well and I feel as if I am treading water or even going backwards a bit.  Writing and sharing with you the ups and downs of daily life helps me and I hope it helps you.  When you read Cry, Laugh Heal, I hope you discover that you are not alone in your feelings of bereavement and your quest to rebuild a new life.

I certainly do not have it all together all … Read More

Nature Girl In Search Of Healing

August 27th, 2012
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Courtesy of The Magic Onions I love this picture! Serene and peaceful, can’t you feel the healing power of the flowers?  The first time I saw it, I mentally slipped into the photograph and felt the aura of  its calming vibe.  I could practically smell the beautiful flowers in the shape of a majestic sun surrounding the Nature Girl. Ommmmmmmm.  The healing is starting and it can happen for all of us but we need to be patient.  Healing takes time.  The most important thing about restoring your mental and emotional health after the loss of a loved one is… Read More

A Special Picture

August 17th, 2012
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Snoopy at typewriter sharing his memories A very good friend recently came over to my house to drop off some things.  It was a Saturday and she was out running errands and my house was on her route.  We both were trying to get things done so it was your usual routine drop off and chat for a few minutes to check in and see what’s going on with each other. Hi. How are you? Great.  What’s going on? Not much.  So and so called me.  Listen to this… She has been in my house tons of times and everything… Read More

Ferris Wheels In August

August 14th, 2012
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  The first week of August hangs at the very top of summer, the top of the live-long year, like the highest seat of a Ferris wheel when it pauses in its turning. The weeks that come before are only a climb from balmy spring, and those that follow a drop to the chill of autumn, but the first week of August is motionless, and hot. It is curiously silent, too, with blank white dawns and glaring noons, and sunsets smeared with too much color. Often at night there is lightning, but it quivers all alone.                                                                          ~Natalie Babbitt, Tuck Everlasting… Read More

Don’t Wait — Put It In Writing

August 10th, 2012
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When we miss someone, we sometimes search for something they gave us, such as a handwritten note, or something that belonged to them, such as a piece of clothing.  Seeing, touching and even smelling something they once used helps us feel closer, as though the person were with us. Whether the person died or moved away, you are feeling sad and you need to find something that will help you work through this lonely moment and perhaps even help you feel stronger for the future.  Handwritten letters or cards are particularly valuable.  I think everyone has a letter tucked away… Read More

Why Did I Come Into This Room?

August 9th, 2012
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This morning I got in the car and put the key in the ignition when my mind started wandering back to the house, to the kitchen in particular, and I wondered, “Did I unplug the tea kettle?” It is embarrassing to admit but when I am leaving the house, there are many, many times when I cannot remember whether I turned something off.  I generally have a mental list of the same things that I need to do every day so why does this happen? I really try to prevent going through the house over and over to recheck myself,… Read More

The Stepping Stones

July 27th, 2012
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I like the hopeful tone of this short story a lot and I hope you do too. It captures what life is about and I really believe that step by step, little by little, we can help each other through the ups and downs of life. Then you can turn around and help another person: The Stepping Stones By Barbara Williams Come, take my hand.  The road is long.  And we must travel by stepping stones.  No, you’re not alone: I’ll go with you.  I know the road well, I”ve been there. Don’t fear the darkness, I’ll be with you. … Read More

God Bless The Child

July 10th, 2012
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Children are not small adults who can basically raise themselves.  Children can be resilient but only to a point. Being the oldest of six children, having 35 first cousins and also being a mother has taught me that children are much smarter than we ever give them credit for, but that doesn’t mean that they understand all that is happening to them in their homes, schools or in the world at large. Their bodies, brains and emotions are still developing and they need all the love and guidance we can give them. I am a big believer in honesty when… Read More

My Paper Chase

June 27th, 2012
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I mentioned in yesterday’s post that I’ve started going through a number of boxes of papers that once belonged to my husband. For those of you who have found yourselves responsible for the belongings of a spouse, friend or relative after they died, you know this is not a straightforward process.  Each of these boxes I have decided to examine is potentially an emotional minefield because I don’t know what’s contained in them.  My husband filled them up and now they are waiting for my attention. You might be thinking, “It’s just old papers.  What’s the big deal?”  Since my… Read More