When I share stories on this blog about my travels with grief over the past several years, I do so in the hopes that it will help others cope with their losses. Grief can be isolating even though I believe most people want to connect with others and especially those who have been where they are when they experience a loss.I think everyone wants to feel that someone, anyone gets what’s going on with them; especially at this time of the year.
One of the ways I found a connection was through reading. In the beginning of grieving the loss of my husband, I read everything I could get my hands on about what this whole grieving thing was about.
I was hungry for information about the particulars of grief because no one I knew had lost their husband at a young age and was also trying to raise a child. I wanted to know how long would it last, would I always feel so full of pain, would I ever stop crying, would I ever laugh again, how was I going to get myself going again. And these were only a few of the urgent issues swirling around in my head at that time.
I have since learned that every loss is unique, that each of us grieves in our own way and what helps one person doesn’t always work for another person. That is why I am always searching for stories about how other people have handled their loss and what helped them to find meaning in their life once again. You never know what’s going to click.
Enter Nate Berkus. Yes, Nate Berkus the designer. Nate Berkus, the talented cutie who you’ve seen on television as he goes into people’s homes and beautifies their rooms with new design solutions and a refreshing down-to-earth attitude about design, living spaces and life.
You may not know this but he’s also the same Nate Berkus who in 2004 survived the Indian Ocean tsunami. Tragically, his partner, photographer Fernando Bengoechea, Berkus’ did not survive. They were traveling to a small surfing village in Sri Lanka when the tsunami hit. Nate Berkus shared with oprah.com earlier this year his wisdom about how his loss affected him and how he went about processing it. I just discovered this story and felt Nate Berkus’ answers still resonate with help for all of us.
Please read Nate Berkus’ insights about moving on with your life after a loss in the following link: