This post is for anyone, and in particular someone who is close to me, who is currently going through an anxious time in their life and is unsure how it will turn out.
Anxiety may be dogging you and causing sleepless nights, loss of appetite, an increase in appetite, a need to abuse alcohol or drugs (please don’t!!!!), crankiness or sadness and crying. As in crying constantly. Like every day. At any time.
This person close to me was talking recently about how crying really does make her feel better but she’s also aware that it doesn’t make others around feel better. Crying is normal and is a healthy release from sadness, tension, frustration or anger about a particularly stressful situation.
But even though crying is normal, it scares alot of people; both men and women. I have seen people who can handle incredible amounts of stress or pressure or work completely mishandle a situation when they see someone cry in public. They either just stand there fumbling through words that they hope will make some kind of sense or they find a reason to excuse themselves and walk away.
Hello????? Really?????? All the person needs is a comforting gesture. Let’s exercise our human natures and try to connect with one another. A hug or holding a person’s hand or putting an arm around their shoulder would be wonderful place to start. Just keep telling yourself that it’s not about how uncomfortable you feel. It’s really about helping the other person who is obviously in some kind of distress and is falling apart in front of you.
Many years ago, I would cry all the time. I didn’t plan it. And I didn’t do it on purpose. I would just feel an overwhelming sadness and then the tears would start to well up and I couldn’t stop myself. I had no control over my feelings at all. At the time, I was grieving over the loss of my husband, for our life together and for our life as a family with a young child. I really did try to keep it together but for about a year I cried a lot.
I didn’t even care where I was when I cried. I didn’t even care how other people reacted to my crying. I was so beyond worrying about how I looked when I cried. Sometimes I would do “The Ugly Cry,” as Oprah calls it, which is full out face crying with your face twisted and red and your mouth wide open and then other times I would find myself sitting quietly and the tears would roll down my face.
I did scare myself once with my crying. Once, when I was at the cemetary early in the morning during the work week when no one was there, I was kneeling on the ground and talking to my husband at the same time. I was full of emotion and frustration and anxiety and I cried so hard that I got a nose bleed. That was bad!
I was at a particularly low point in my life and never in a million years would I ever wish that absolute down-in-the-gutter feeling of loneliness on anyone. God bless you if you happen to be in that place right now. I am sorry for what you are going through righ now and I am sending you a hug and a message of strength so you know you are not alone and that there is always hope.
I know it doesn’t feel like there is any hope right right now. The person close to me doesn’t feel it either. But there is hope and I know it is within you.
Let it burn within you and please allow yourself to feel your inner strength and always believe in your ability to build on it.
It’s okay, in fact it’s necessary to give yourself permission to cry, for your tears are a comfort and a sign you are processing your anxious feelings. Releasing your tears may help you sort out your feelings but they will never extinguish your beautiful inner spirit or your power to renew your life.